Little kids get all the attention on their first day of
school, but teens need parental help and guidance, too, as
they make the transition from elementary school to the scary
world of middle and high schools.
To safely navigate this possibly hazardous journey, teens
cry out for coping mechanisms, ways to deal with all the new
influences, situations and people that will be waiting for
them in the hallways.
Teenagers need you to help them discuss their worries
and come up with solutions and ideas to overcome their fears
about being part of a new school situation, says Kim
Flores, mother of 16-year-old Adam, a junior at Parkview High
I encouraged Adam to try different activities, to get
involved. This allowed him to learn new skills and gain knowledge,
but it also instantly gave him a whole group of like-minded
kids to hang around and be friends with.
Adam first tried football and now he seems to have found
his niche in speech and debate, a great activity, she says,
that has built up his confidence and poise and given
him public speaking skills that he can use his entire life.
Flores, who manages the childrens department at the
Library Center, recommends a series of Love
and Logic books by Foster Cline and Jim Fay. One,
Teens with Love and Logic, gets it right, says Flores.
The authors urge parents to respect the feelings of
your teens. Dont negate them by laughing at their concerns,
making light of them and not taking them seriously,
Flores advises. Sarcasm usually doesnt work, but
humor can diffuse the situation.
Here are other books recommended by Flores. They are all
available, some in audio format, from any of the eight branches
and bookmobile of the Springfield-Greene County Library District.