Nervous anxiety comes with the parenting territoryand theres
one experience in which almost every mother or father experiences
some degree of worry and thats potty-training.
Its not the act of teaching a child to use the toilet thats
so troublesome (although thats fraught with hang-ups itself),
but the guilt related to the age in which your child should
be potty-trained. I speak from personal experience since I had the
idea that my daughters ought to be visiting the bathroom
on a regular basis by at least 2 years old.
They werent, but now I find out that Ellen and Polly were
average (two years and eight months) in gaining this skill and control
of their bodies.
According to the Parents
Answer Book written by the editors of Parent Magazine,
Most children are ready to take this big step sometime between
the ages of 2 and 3. Exactly when your child is ready for this step
depends on both physical and psychological factors.
Physically, the child must be able to control her sphincter
muscles voluntarily. There is no way to rush this development. Psychologically
she needs to feel in control of the situation.
You can help with the psychological part of this development with
a trip to any of the eight branches or bookmobile of the Springfield-Greene
County Library District. In the childrens departments, there
are hundreds of books and a few DVDs designed to take the trials
and tribulations out of potty training. These books tackle the subject
head-on and with lots of humora great way to put both parents
and kids at ease.